upgrade coredns to v1.4+

[sonyafenge]

What happened:
arktos is still using coredns 1.3.1, which has this issue:
kubernetes/kubernetes#75414

as a workaround to cherry-pick this PR before upgrade coredns:
kubernetes/kubernetes#82128

What you expected to happen:

How to reproduce it (as minimally and precisely as possible):

Anything else we need to know?:
Arktos PR: #1366

Environment:

• Arktos version (use kubectl version):
• Cloud provider or hardware configuration:
• OS (e.g: cat /etc/os-release):
• Kernel (e.g. uname -a):
• Install tools:
• Network plugin and version (if this is a network-related bug):
• Others:

[sonyafenge]

Check community kubernetes upgrade cordons history and found these PR may be necessary:
https://github.com/kubernetes/kubernetes/pull/78033
https://github.com/kubernetes/kubernetes/pull/82093