[SCSB-237] build Stable ABI3 wheels with Py_LIMITED_API

[zacharyburnett]

Resolves SCSB-237

building against the Limited API means we can build just ONE wheel (in this case for Python 3.11) and it should work on all future Python versions: https://docs.python.org/3/c-api/stable.html#limited-c-api

Tasks

• update or add relevant tests
• update relevant docstrings and / or docs/ page
• Does this PR change any API used downstream? (if not, label with no-changelog-entry-needed)
  • write news fragment(s) in changes/: echo "changed something" > changes/<PR#>.<changetype>.rst (see changelog readme for instructions)
  • if your change breaks existing functionality, also add a changes/<PR#>.breaking.rst news fragment
• run regression tests with this branch installed ("git+https://github.com/<fork>/stcal@<branch>")
  • jwst regression test
  • romancal regression test

[codecov]

Codecov Report

❌ Patch coverage is 0% with 9 lines in your changes missing coverage. Please review.
✅ Project coverage is 91.82%. Comparing base (f84085b) to head (95b2bff).
⚠️ Report is 15 commits behind head on main.

Files with missing lines	Patch %	Lines
setup.py	0.00%	9 Missing ⚠️

Additional details and impacted files

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- Coverage   91.88%   91.82%   -0.07%     
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  Files          63       63              
  Lines        8913     8933      +20     
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+ Hits         8190     8203      +13     
- Misses        723      730       +7     

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